Right right. If he’s a recruitable athlete to D3 men’s lacrosse teams, he should be engaged in this process right now. (Here’s a non-confirmed list of schools.) You will want to have a real sense of the possibilities here as he’s doing the rest of the work. If he is recruitable, then the schools and their conferences will dictate the academic standards.
I think the list of D3 schools with >1500 students that have the merit budget to take students down to $30K where this student will be in the top 10% is very small. Adrian? Fairleigh Dickinson? Gettysburg? Ithaca? (Possibly Ithaca.) I’m just guessing here.
Sounds like you should definitely reach out to @laxmom24! Good luck.