Meeting a spouse in college?

<p>At Occidental we were told that 60% of Oxy women marry 40% of Oxy men (there were more men than women then). I didn't marry a classmate, but an interesting thing happened at our 30th reunion that reminded us of the old marriage statistic. Two of our classmates who had both been recently widowed reconnected at the meeting and were susequently married about a year later. I'm sure that there are others on this site who have had similar occurances at their reunions.</p>

<p>Hehe... my cousin studied in Germany and married an Australian guy she met there.</p>

<p>My husband and I met in graduate school. I was just starting the program and he had just finished up and was saying good bye to friends and faculty. We overlapped by only one day....destiny</p>

<p>H and I met senior year in HS. He stayed in town to go to the local UC and I went off to State U. We continued dating all during college and married shortly after we each graduated. D #1 is still dating HS sweetheart and they are also at seperate colleges. Seeing each other regularly this summer. Odds are it won't last but who am I to say :)</p>

<p>My wife & I met at an intramural sports meet during our junior year (we went to different campuses of IIT in India). We carried on a snail-mail relationship, and got married just before we both came to the US for our PhD's. Our 30th anniversary was a couple of weeks ago (and yes, I remembered :) ).</p>

<p>Problem is, it's a bit tough to lecture either of our daughters about how relationships started in college may not work out. They just wave our marriage certificate in our faces.</p>

<p>H and I met at college through mutual friends.We didnt have classes together but worked in the same office (Registrar) for our work study jobs.We were juniors,I was almost engaged to someone else and so was he.It was Lust at first sight I hate to say(lots of clandestine meetings in the hallways and love notes in the office) but it turned into love after the drama of having to dump our respective "others".
We dated through senior year and then moved out together,married 13 months later.All the "old ladies" who worked in the office came to the wedding,they felt they were responsible for us falling in love! It'll be 30 years next January!</p>

<p>We met outside of college when I was a freshman and he still a HS senior (from same home town and high school, but didn't meet till after I graduated). year and a half later, I transfered to his school, the rest was history.</p>

<p>Wow i can't believe the number of parents on this board who met in college!</p>

<p>I met my first husband when I was a 17-year-old freshman and he a 19-year-old sophomore and we married the summer after my sophomore year. I do feel that I missed out on the whole college experience, since we lived on a farm miles off campus. We grew apart when I went off to graduate school and he changed his mind about following me, choosing to stay near his parents. I met my second husband in a grad school seminar, married him during my third year, and we are still married 4 children and 30 years later. However, I counseled my daughter not to tie herself down too early, and although at age 28 she has been with the same boyfriend for six years, she has no plans to marry or have children yet.</p>

<p>H & I met in graduate school -- actually at Penn's Grad Towers when the buildings were somewhat new. We've been together 30+ years.</p>

<p>My sister married her college boyfriend about 30-some years ago. They met at freshman registration. They're still happily married. </p>

<p>I married my biology lab partner. Big mistake, we were divorced 2 years later, and it should have been about 10 minutes later, if I'd had the courage to admit I'd made a flaming mistake immediately. </p>

<p>Husband and father of my children was my boss. (When I say that, he points out he wasn't my direct boss; I point out that since he was a co-owner of the company, it was close enough.) But I did quit before the wedding.</p>

<p>We have friends who met in 7th grade and started dating in junior year of high school. They got married right out of college, and are still married.</p>

<p>Met H while a senior and he was a junior. Both of us were on the crew team. Asked him out spring of my senior year; date turned out to be a total flop. Following fall, I was asked to cox for his team and ended up coxing his boat (he was the stroke). Although he was interested in another young woman (which he insists on denying) and sought advice about it (again denial), we ended up talking to each other six days a week for a month before the Head of the Charles race. That was in the fall of 1974, and we'll celebrate our 29th anniversary in December.</p>

<p>Several posts back talked about the cons of marrying young. I definitely do not advocate marrying young and hope my kids don't. But I did. I married summer after soph year in college (age 20) and hubby had just graduated (age 22) which I wrote about in a previous post. One drawback (among others) of marrying young COULD be not pursuing your education or career goals because of being tied down, etc. I just wanted to say that in my case, even though marrying so young was still quite unusual for my generation (amongst college educated people), it did not impede my education or career goals. For me, I was still able to continue at my college (Tufts) despite being married (no way would I have given all that up). My husband was entering a four year graduate school in Boston and we lived in Cambridge, though of course that was not as close to campus as I would have lived if rooming with a bunch of girls as originally planned. With my graduate school, I still got to go though I guess you could say if I wanted to go at the time I went, I had to go to one in Boston (his grad school was in Boston) but there are many grad schools there and I went to one I wanted to go to (Harvard) and so again, being married did not affect my educational plans. The difference mostly for me was that we were married, not just living together and so there was that commitment but I still got to go to school as planned. The main thing I gave up was studying abroad. As well, I still got to start my career as planned though I guess you could say that we had to coordinate where we were going to move to for jobs. My husband was tied to Vermont (cause of a fanatic) and so I suppose I was limited to where we job hunted but we were both were able to get jobs in our field upon graduating grad school at the same time and moving to Vermont. Though we married young, we opted to not have children until the age that was more common, after finishing graduate school and getting our careers off the ground. So, we planned from the start to wait nine years to have kids and we did. I had the first one at age 29 (he was 31) and the second one at 31 (he was 33) and so that was kinda a more normal age to have kids, even though we married younger than normal for our peer group. We still did not have kids in our twenties but we were married throughout them. </p>

<p>I am not advocating anyone doing this and prefer my kids to wait until they are older (which had been my plan....ha ha), but just saying that sometimes if someone marries young, it does not have to mean foregoing college, grad school and career plans but just means coordinating them with someone else's plans/location. I still think it is better to marry older. Just saying that not all of us who married young had to give up all those things. It does not have to mean having kids real young too. Yesterday was our 28th anniversary. </p>


<p>I plan to meet my future wife at a gas station in June of 2006 and to get married in May 2008, if my pyschic revelations are correct. But seriously I met my most recent finacee at college, until extenuating circumstances spilt us up.</p>

<p>Hi! Hubby & I did NOT meet in college--did meet & nearly got engaged to one great man in college and a different great man in law school. I wanted to be working & living alone in my own place before I made any serious commitments. I met my husband playing volleyball in a league--we were on the same team. We married when I was 29 & had been working for my dream law firm for 5 years.</p>

<p>My sister did marry the man she met while she was getting her masters in special ed & he was in med school at UMichigan. My younger brother met his wife when he was in law school & his friends introduced his wife at a party (she was getting a masters & taking courses in a different college in a different city). My other sister met her husband through mutual friends. My other younger brother met his wife in high school, though they didn't date until college & had mostly a long distance relationship, since he mostly attended college/med school in CA & she was in HI for college/med school.</p>

<p>I know several folks who all married their high school sweethearts & are still married 20-30+ years later. One couple I'm close to met when he was in law school at UCDavis & she was in grad school getting a masters in English (she went on to law school at LMU in LA). Another couple met when she was an undergrad & he was a law student at UCDavis, still happily married, also over 20 years later.</p>

<p>My parents met & married at UMichigan, as did my sister's in-laws & many of my parents friends. Can't remember anyone I was close to who met & married at UOregon, where I was an undergrad.</p>

<p>Both of my sisters & my brothers married in their early to mid-20s. All are still happily married. None were married while they were attending school. As was said, being married did influence their choices--they had to consider the career and educational options for both of them in chosing where to live. One of my brothers wanted to live in LA, but had promised to return to HI, so they did. My sister had bought a house & was settled in Chicago, but her hubby said she had promised to return to HI, so they did as well.</p>

<p>I met my H in a summer course taken between my 2nd and 3rd years of college. I needed to take a year of physics to finish fulfilling pre-med requirements. I anticipated disliking physics and so wanted to get it over with by taking the compressed summer version; the only schools where I knew I could do this were my own (which was a wonderful school but a poor match for me at the time, and thus a place I didn't want to stay during the summer) and one other. My husband was a graduate student at this school and a teaching fellow for the course I took (not my section!). Times being what they were then, the professor for the course not only knew of our relationship but used our names for a problem on the final ("If B. is pulling M. at an angle of..."). I ended up going back to my college and graduating early so I could be with my H sooner, physics turned out to be the final nail in the coffin in leading me to decide in the direction of getting a Ph.D. instead of an M.D., and my H and I married about 3 years later. That summer was 30 years ago, and our daughter is now the age I was then. She's very mature, but I can't imagine her becoming involved with whomever she's destined to marry just now.</p>