I wouldn’t go there…again, more staunch feminists would argue in return that things like home making and caring for the children are indeed a crap ton of work. To suggest that it is a low responsibility job may be missing the mark or lacking nuance. To be blunt, while the male was the breadwinner, many men would hardly participate in child rearing back in the day. I think there was a reason infanticide was more common back in the day (like industrial revolution in many western countries and other stages of development). Child rearing is simply not easy. The question comes down to whether or not one believes that manual labor (or any labor to gain capital) is more difficult or places a higher level of responsibility than some domestic things. One could maybe argue this in the case of a socioeconomically well-off household back them, but for working class and the working poor, both parties (male and female) were ultimately in hell.
As for the money analogy: Well, it is the breadwinner’s money, so if they are taken advantage of, they get blamed. Period. The only difference back then is that males were basically always the primary breadwinners. Today, a woman would be considered a gold-digger in that case. However a woman who wasn’t careful would be considered stupid as well if a guy took advantage of them financially. That one I wouldn’t mention simply because there wasn’t enough relationships or households to test the reverse.