Thanks @leennp for all the information. It does seem like there is a big difference between the mens/womens process. Our hope is not to walk on, not so much because of scholarship money, but more because I think he wants to be on a team where he can score and contribute. Although, money always helps too! I will keep the idea of an “assured spot” if we end up going that route though.
We switched gears a bit and reached out to a few schools based on his ability to score in that conference based on the most recent Conference meet and his times. We got an immediate response from 2 of the 3 schools, so that’s promising.