OP here. Just want to thank everyone for their help and compassion. So many great ideas. Here’s our latest update.
He is still at school. He had decided he does not want to leave his friends and he is definitely mentally stable. His sibling is going out there this weekend to spend time with him and he is coming home midweek next week. He is getting some work done (he just turned in a small project) and said he is feeling better about himself. Obviously we all realize he is not magically cured.
Spoke to Provost and the head of advising and they were great. They are going to reach out to his professors to try to get him an incomplete in his classes so he can finish them in the coming months. This would only apply to 2/4 of his classes but still better than getting F’s. He could also do a medical waiver retroactively depending on whether he can get the incompletes or not. He will most likely be placed on Academic probation but will not lose his scholarship and can return in the fall (or even the spring but that’s not happening). We are aware that we won’t get our tuition back. He’ll most likely be on academic probation but we think that sa good thing as it will require weekly check-ins.
I have him set up for a neuropsych evaluation in April and an appt with his PCP when he gets home. I’ve spoken to several psychologists over the past week and they all agreed this would be the correct next step. I am also actively working to get him a therapist. Most psychiatrists around here just seem to dole out meds, very few do any actual therapy. He has agreed that he needs help. He really wants to go back in the fall but that’ll be a decision for the future, right now we are taking it one day at a time.