Wow! TVBinge, I’m impressed! I wish her luck.
I knew a young man who got a lot of merit aid at RPI, but it was only enough to make it about the same as his in-state, which had given him some merit, too, so I think that it brought it down to about 20K/yr total, a few years ago.
She has a real shot at MIT, and the other top engineering schools in the country. They are looking for women. Maybe they’ll consider you deserving of fin aid.