A waitlist at those schools is effectively a no, sorry to say. Wesleyan and Columbia do give more context. I think you’ll find your people at Midd, but you’ll find your people in Montreal too. It might take a while to find them, simply because it’s a huge school. Surprised Oberlin isn’t in your list, though I don’t know what schools you applied to. Of these two though, I think you’ll prefer Midd.