<p>ellebud, I would remind him that not every wedding has to have every tradition. Your daughter and her father can dance to any song during the wedding, it does not have to be an event that draws everyones attention. Or the wedding could just have father/daughter dance. I’ve been to wedding where all four parents are alive and there was no mother/groom or father/daughter dance. </p>
<p>If he does want to participate in the tradition, he could dance with his sister which seems a lovely way of honoring their mother. If there mother had a favorite song, that might be a nice choice Or he could dance with you. Maybe he could take a spin around the floor with several women in his life who are “mothering” him. </p>
<p>Or he could choose another way to honor his mother. I’ve seen the flowers at the chapel being noted in the program as being an honor to a deceased relative with the main flower being the deceased persons favorite. I’ve also seen picture tables set up wth pictures of the bride and groom through the years featuring pictures of loved ones no longer living. Sometimes a moment of silence and/or thanks for the person during the ceremony or reception. He could take flowers out to his mother’s grave the morning of the wedding. I had friends who went to the cemetary after their wedding to leave her bouquet on her Dad’s grave. </p>
<p>Something will feel right to him and that’s exactly what he should do. I’m so sorry that his mother died but thankful that he has you and your daugther who love him.</p>