<p>Do not worry- hand surgery is no big deal in the medical world, anesthesiologists and surgeons deal with it often and with patients with RA. Your CC name suggests you are religious, therefore you may look to your religious group for support. It is easy to be afraid about things you have no knowledge of, you may want to find out more details to reassure yourself. Also, parents are supposed to always be there for us, they are not supposed to change so your world has been upset. The hand surgery would only make things better for her, easing pain/mobility- so look at the positive aspects of this for her.</p>