The point is when two people get together sometimes they just don’t mix…was it her, was it him…you just never know who sets who off. They are just two people who should not be together. Yes and in child abuse cases sometimes a child is the trigger. Clearly the person who gets triggered could use counseling to understand and deal with those triggers, but equally in a two-adult case the other person could also use counseling if they chose to stay in that situation. For a child, they need to be removed to a safe place until the adults can get to a place or an outcome where the child is safe. Good grief, it’s not always about “the woman” it’s about relationships.