Now that we know more about the behavior that triggered the charges, it seems that the university definitely had to act.
I am concerned that the woman is willing to accept this kind of treatment from her boyfriend, especially since from what she said at the time it appears to be habitual. Or at least the manifestation of intimidating anger is habitual.
While I am generally in favor of women defining their own status, it sounds as if she may fall into the subset of people of an abusive relationship that refuse to admit it. I am concerned for her future safety.
I wonder if the U could have done a carrot/stick thing by making a private settlement allowing him to get his final two credits only if they BOTH enrolled in and participated in counseling. Would that be unethical?