Apologies I have no recollection what it was, but one I suggested to older son was severely rejected as too sappy so I didnt suggest one to younger son. Just went with whatever he picked.
Probably not the type of thing you are looking for but one friend and her ds danced to, “You’ve Got a Friend in Me,” from Toy Story because it was his favorite childhood movie. But, maybe your ds has a favorite song from a movie that could work?
I sort of feel like what you choose should be based on who it’s for. Is it a special moment for you and your ds or is it something that you want to be entertaining for your guests? I realize it can be both, but what is the dominating force?
If and when my ds ever gets married, and we are allowed to have a dance, I guarantee he and I will both want to do something fun, showy, and choreographed. We are both a couple of hams! However, I’ll abide by whatever the bride wants. I secretly hope it’s not just swaying around in a circle, but if that is what she wants and what is appropriate I will keep my mouth shut and sway around in my beige dress - lol
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I had to think about this. We danced to Circle game, my choice, sappy but perfect. I don’t recall what my husband and daughters danced to.
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I felt bad telling S I didn’t remember, but he didn’t either! The song was picked more for the bride and her dad, we were just a tagalong 
Anyway, it was “Teach Your Children”… which, in hindsight, is a great song!
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“How Sweet it is to be Loved By You” (James Taylor).
My DS and new DIL cut their cake to that song. 
I was just thinking I could not remember the song we danced to either, but Dd and DH danced to Unforgettable, the Natalie and Nate King Cole version.
Really no need to abide by what the bride wants if your son does get married. It is really between the mother and son. Hopefully, between mother or son , one or the other comes up with something. The bride could certainly throw out some suggestions.
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S & DIL chose this song and DIL & her dad started off and then S & I joined in about halfway through. I think it’s a good choice 
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I’m not sure I agree in all circumstances. Honestly, we are pretty good dancers - lol. Depending on the dancing skills of bride and FOB, I could see us upstaging them. I also am not sure if the types of dances need to sort of, “match.”?? If bride/FOB chose a slow song, should groom/MOG do something lively? I honestly don’t know if that would be appropriate or well-received. I’m not saying whether that would be right or wrong - I’m saying I don’t know. Lastly, I had a friend who was a MOG and her dil-to-be had lost her father at a young age. Because there was going to be no father/daughter dance, the bride did not want a mother/son dance. My MOG friend was very disappointed but certainly abided by the wishes of the bride.
Absolutely none of this is ripe for me - ds doesn’t even have a girlfriend.
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I totally agree with this. I’m going to ask DS which type of song, slow or fast/fun. I’m sure he will get back with me after he talks to the bride. So, in essence, it’s her choice too.
As far as what I’m wanting to accomplish (can’t think of a better term), I want it to look like fun, others will want to join in when asked. So, more entertaining the guests than some super meaningful emotional thing. I’m a demonstrative person, so is DS, but we are both fairly reserved in public. As much as I hope to have a slow dance song with him at some point, I don’t necessarily want 300 pairs of eyes on us in a tender moment. That would make us self conscious, and I highly doubt either of us would be ‘drinking” in the moment.
I would prefer a really fun fast song with lyrics in it that refer to “mom” or something of the sort. Nothing sappy.
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I’ll add that I don’t know what the regular length of the song we chose is but I do recall the DJ faded it out at some point so we didn’t actually dance for 3 1/2 minutes. 3 1/2 minutes can be a long time to be in the spotlight!!! 
AS WE KNOW…everyone does weddings differently! But IMO, if I’m part of the “cast” - which is true for the mother-son dance for instance - I should - if I want - have a little input; as @conmama says she would prefer fun over sappy. Hopefully a little chat with her son will let him know that and he will be on board.
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My mom was a big Barbra Streisand fan in the 70s, and Evergreen is one of the first songs I heard (and remember…).
So we danced to Evergreen.
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DIL texted me one day asking which song I wanted for the mother-son dance. It didn’t take me long to choose What a Wonderful World not only for the short duration but also because its instantly recognizable first notes grab your heart. I definitely wanted a tender “last” moment with my son. I don’t think either of us were thinking about being watched as we spoke to each other the entire two-and-a-half minutes. We shared deeply heartfelt thoughts about this passage, unplanned and so meaningful. The photographer got a beautiful picture of a single tear on my cheek with a loving look from my son. He gave me the best hug when the music ended, and I remember whispering, “You’re hers now son, and that makes me so happy. Go.” It was such a joyful, feel-good moment. I felt the dance was for us, not entertainment.
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Me : Do you feel stupid?
S2 : Absolutely. Don’t look them in the eye
Me: Is her mom okay?
S2: Well, she’s quiet , so that’s working out
Me: Did you eat?
S2: “twirls the mom”
S2: Did you ask me something laughs
Me: Waves to bride
S2: thankgoodness we didn’t pick the long one. Let’s tango
So, as we did when he was little, we mock-tango’d across the floor. DH was in a wheelchair, MOB was not to be given any spotlight, and would have melted down over bride having a dance with anyone but her (there is no FOB) .
Just to say, it was still fun, but not to be overthought. It is a busy day – keeping things simple and easy is a good goal, bc the people watching will not remember what you did anyway
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My daughter (no dad; single parent by adoption by choice) and I danced to this song (her choice):
What Would I Do Without You
Song by Drew Holcomb and the Neighbors
She sent me the song about a year before the wedding. It was lovely dancing with her!
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I think it has to do with the relationship, also. I could see more a slow dance with DS2. He’s always been more sentimental.
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My son and I danced to “I Hope You Dance” also. Very moving.
My S and I danced to Josh Groban “You Raise Me Up.”
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My son’s FiL and I are not dancers, so I suggested “Your mother don’t dance and your daddy don’t rock and roll”.
That was turned down in favor of What a Wonderful World. DIL and father, son and I danced at the same time; only way her dad would do it.
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