OP has challenges to figure out, but so do a lot of young people. College is expensive and finding an affordable option isn’t always easy.
Trudy, if you tell us your options maybe we can help you. Could you live with your dad? Do you have other family who live near a college? You said once you were working on getting your license. How is that going? You may have to get a full-time job to support yourself and pay for classes as you can afford them. If you stay with your dad more days than you stay with your mom you can use his tax info on the FAFSA. Will he give it to you?