This is extremely perceptive of you. I think you are exactly right about how my son’s brain operates. We just did the MT audition experience with my daughter (now a college freshman), and she is very open about everything she’s thinking. This is going to be a very different process, I think. Where did your daughter wind up? Mine is at Hartt.
I did email my son’s private teacher once and very uncharacteristically did not get a reply. He talked to my son about colleges and I know was encouraging (based on what little I got out of him), so I feel a little stuck.