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No. She’s a good person and sometimes bad things happen to good people.</p>
<p>While I understand your point, she is otherwise a very happy person. Besides cutting herself, she has no other problems. Considering this a recent development with no apparent cause, I think she can be cured, and cured for good.</p>
<p>Regarding exercise, I’ll suggest that to her, but she’s already an All-American in an endurance sport that I will not name. </p>
<p>I think I will suggest that see tell her parents and then go seek professional help. Thank you all for your help; it is much appreciated.</p>
<p>But I really think she can get through this and I just help her do it as soon as possible.</p>
<p>I am speaking from the mom pt of view.
My D did this in middle school- I did not know about it- because I didn’t not see her undressed. Her friends staged an intervention with a counselor at her school
( all schools should have health clinics where students can get help with physical /mental issues- not to say they do- but they should)
I was so glad that her friends did this- it was absolutely the right choice for them to make.
The counselor told me about it- & then I took her to the dr.
I think perhaps that would work in your case?</p>
<p>OneQuestion99, I don’t even know you, but I feel so proud that you recognize that bad things happen to good people and that your girlfriend isn’t bad or defective because of this. It’s shameful when full grown adults can’t even realize that abandoning someone for this is the same as abandoning someone for having a physical illness.</p>
<p>Contact an adult at school only if other more private options are not possible. I would begin with both parents and physician. If she is still under 18, pediatricians are great resources for this unfortunately very common health problem. I mention beginning with a medical doctor because they should be a good resource for a solid referral to a counselor who specializes in treating this type of thing.</p>
<p>Perhaps you could simply tell her firstly that she has shown great courage in telling you about her problem and that this must be very scary for her. You should also tell her that you do not have the skills necessary to help her yourself and that you care too much about her to keep this information to yourself. You could then ask her if there was an adult in a position to help her that she would prefer you speak with. Otherwise you may encourage her to speak to her parents, and offer to go with her for support if that would be something both you and she are comfortable with. </p>
<p>She may get angry with you, or accuse you of not being able to keep a secret. But if by saying something enables her to get the help she needs then it would be worth it.</p>
<p>And also, don’t forget to take good care of yourself</p>
<p>(and if by chance you are the person who is doing the cutting, please know you aren’t alone and people can help you. Please tell someone.)</p>
<p>what? that could make her cut more my gf used to cut herself to and i stuck through it with her now she sees a psychiatrist just stay with her and help her</p>