<p>I agree with the others in saying your husband was an amazing man. As I read your post, I kept thinking of the saying “Your life is a gift from God. What you do with your life is your gift to God.” While your husband may not longer phyically be with us, his life was truly a gift and and I hope that you and your girls take solace in knowing the many lives that he has touched and the many lives he has changed for the better because of him.</p>
<p>Still holding you and your daughters up in prayer.</p>
<p>Crabbylady, My heart goes out to you and your daughters. I have thought of your family every day since you first posted. Your note brought tears to my eyes this morning. I am angry right alongside you. And I am moved by your family’s richness and love.</p>
<p>Dear crabbylady and precious daughters,
I am so very sorry for your loss and your pain.
If only the tears, thoughts, and heartfelt words of strangers
could somehow help…</p>
<p>No, they can’t bring back a loving husband, a devoted father, a dedicated doctor.</p>
<p>No, they can’t take away the pain of such a wrenching loss.</p>
<p>But what they can do is this: Make it abundantly clear–at a time when one’s emotions are at their rawest and life seems frightfully desolate–that this is a world in which suffering can be shared with others, a world in which others can offer the comforts of compassion. </p>
<p>No, that doesn’t change any of the awful facts about the situation. But it’s not negligible, either.</p>
<p>I’m only human, I’m just a woman
Help me believe in what I could be
And all that I am
Show me the stairway, I have to climb
Lord for my sake, teach me to take
One day at a time</p>
<p>cho: One day at a time sweet Jesus
That’s all I’m asking from you
Just give me the strength
To do everyday what I have to do
Yesterdays gone sweet Jesus
And tomorrow may never be mine
Lord help me today, show me the way
One day at a time.</p>
<p>Do you remember, when you walked among men
Well Jesus you know if you’re looking below
It’s worse now, than then
Cheating and stealing, violence and crime
So for my sake, teach me to take
One day at a time</p>
<p>We’re here with you through all the awful “firsts”. Praying for you, your daughters, the speedy recovery of the woman who was riding with your husband. Sending you strength and thinking of y’all every day.</p>
<p>I remembered too late that your family is Jewish, but I hope the lyrics of this song still give you some comfort. The only thing one can do when tragedy strikes is to take one day at a time, put one foot in front of the other, and keep on going.</p>
<p>I was walking through a very upscale store the other day and a salesman who knew me stopped me. He asked me what I wanted for the holidays. For a split second I thought of the diamond necklace that I coveted and then said, “Health and peace.” So, to all, expecially Crabbylady and her family, I wish health and peace.</p>
<p>I think that your husband was wonderfully caring and helped changed the lives of many children and their families. I know that the two of you instilled such values in your daughters. May they be a source of comfort and strength for you in the days ahead. I am glad that they will be with you for the next few weeks.</p>
<p>NATIVE AMERICAN PRAYER
I give you this one thought to keep -
I am with you still - I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sunlight on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain. </p>
<p>When you awaken in the morning’s hush,
I am the swift, uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not think of me as gone -
I am with you still - in each new dawn
~~ Author Unknown ~~ </p>
<p>I have thought of you and your daughters frequently. When I’m feeling down, with petty annoyances (and some not-so-petty), I remember to be grateful for every day I have with my family.</p>
<p>I hope you are finding some small bits of peace, and that those bits will grow. Your husband was a wonderful man and will live on in the hearts of many for many years to come.</p>
<p>crabbylady,
I am touched that you took the time to check in here. Please accept this community’s continuing hopes and prayers that you and your daughters are blessed with peace. Take one day at a time and move forward. Your husband was a remarkable man and our world is so much richer because of him. Strength and love to you and your family.</p>
<p>Am glad your daughters will be home with you a while. The website is a beautiful tribute. Thank you for sharing it with us all.<br>
I have an aunt (pushing 80 now, still working) who has spent more than 50 years as a physician in AK, many of them visiting native populations by boat. You have to be incredibly dedicated to do the sort of work these doctors take on. What a loss as well for the patients and families he left behind. He must have been a truly wonderful person. No words of wisdom, I’m afraid, but heartfelt good wishes. Take care.</p>