<p>I really feel for the OP here, especially considering the way the divorce is impacting him. Moreover, if his mom’s behavior is as alleged by OP, I disagree that the OP’s the one that’s selfish and that the “world revolves around him”. </p>
<p>If anything, such behavior IMO illustrates how his mom and/or possibly dad are the real selfish ones and acting as if the world revolves around them. By setting divorce dates and behaving in a negative fashion which exhibits little/no consideration of the impact both may have on OP and his siblings, they’re frankly dumping emotional baggage and responsibilities on the kids that’s really theirs to handle/solve while shielding their kids from the worst effects. </p>
<p>Especially considering the root causes of the divorce are not and SHOULD NOT be the responsibility/effective fault of the kids. This should be further underscored if the root causes predated the birth of the kids. </p>
<p>This reminded me of one statement a HS science teacher who was a trained psychiatrist(Columbia Med School) which when thinking about it makes sense: “It is wrong for parents to use minors(under 18) as emotional support for and/or effectively dump adult issues/emotional baggage for which they’re not prepared to handle due to their age & life experience.” IMHO, what the OP’s mother’s doing if it is as alleged goes way beyond that. </p>
<p>IMHO, it’s the height of chutzpah on the part of those who expect children to behave like saints when their parents are acting worse than young children in the maturity department.</p>