Did you apply to a selection of in-state UCs and CSUs?
It seems like your desire to go out-of-state is “grass looks greener” based. How do you know that a UC or CSU (especially in a different part of California) will not be a “new environment”, or that the “new environment” at the out-of-state schools is necessarily better?
It also seems that you and your parents have not had the money talk so that you know what the cost constraints on your college choice are, so that you can build an application list with affordability in mind.