Part of being an adult is learning to communicate well. That includes listening to other people and trying to understand their point-of-view. You said your parents were hesitant about letting you apply to OOS schools, and you mention financial circumstances being a consideration almost in passing. It sounds like they can’t afford OOS colleges. You need to ask them how much they’re willing/able to pay each year. If it’s less than the cost of an OOS school your choices are to find a school that offers need based aid, apply to one that offers merit for your stats, commute to a local 4-year school, or start at a cc.
Did you apply to any CA colleges? If not, your local cc is your safety. There’s nothing wrong with that. There are plenty of smart people whose families can’t afford residential schools. Community colleges are full of them.