- I know it is weird and uncomfortable, but she has the right to be in her room as much as she wants. Turn on some music to cover any noise you make.
- I would worry more about the never going to school…my daughter had a roommate in quasi-on campus apartments who was supposed to be attending classes but really had dropped out.
- One thing you could do is talk to the Dean of Students…say that you have a roommate that as far as you know was enrolled in classes but does not seem to ever leave the apartment anymore…you are worried if she is depressed and don’t know who to talk to about it.
OP, when we give the advice to talk to her, or ask her how she is doing, we do mean actually talking, not texting. Go to her door, knock and ask (through the closed door) if you can talk; let her know that you are worried about her.
Also, maybe you could contact your school’s residence life dept…since you were assigned to her, clearly the college has some involvement, even if there is no RA.
I think you are right to be concerned about her.
Have you been able to talk to her?