<p>OP–It seems like you’re doing a good job in a very difficult situation. You had a problem, you sought advice, you’re ignoring ■■■■■■…</p>
<p>As I think about it, I believe the reason that the RA got angry when you and your suitemates cleaned up the mess is not that you failed to follow policy (clearly, you didn’t know what the policy was, and clearly, she didn’t tell you) but that she knows how much trouble she could be in for not responding to you when you tried to contact her Saturday night. Responding to situations like this is the purpose of her job. </p>
<p>I hope college life improves for you soon!</p>