The amount that I am to pay is set in stone in a court order. I actually went above and beyond the court order in my financial contribution limit as well. There have been no secrets or hidden agendas on my part. I’m more concerned about my child not having a Uni to go to if things don’t pan out financially with this place. I do feel my child and x, mostly my x, have the responsibility and legal requirement to communicate these matters—but, it doesn’t make them do it. I’d hope my child would want to communicate as it’s an exciting time and I have enjoyed watching and helping my step-children go through the process and wish I could do the same with this one. It sucks being treated like a checkbook. I hope it never happens to anyone here because despite that, you still always want the best for your child and certainly don’t want them to end up with high student loans.