@mistertripster I missed if you said - is there not an NPC availble online for the school?
Those loan amounts Thumper1 posted are just the loans students can take. The school doesn’t care what those numbers are. The school decides what the (collective) family should contribute. If the school says your kid is full pay then your kid can take those capped student loans, but the rest is assumed to come from the parents.
Does your ex have a specified amount to contribute toward college costs just like you do? What will happen if the bill greatly exceeds what you are bound to pay? Can you personally afford to pay the full sticker price for this school, minus the student loan and whatever ex is committed to pay?
I worry for you that your student and/or ex know that this school is going to be incredibly expensive, and are hoping to “force” you into paying for it by springing it on you when its basically too late to choose any other schools.