Need advice on what to say to son after he was rejected from MIT, but a boy he tutors in math and science was accepted

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I think this past weekend just brought back all his original feelings of the rejection, as we had a family party and I think every (well-meaning) relative said to him variations of, “Wow. You didn’t get in? What are they looking for? The place must be full of super geniuses.” Not helpful. I know they all meant well and were trying to cheer him up. That coinciding with the MIT admitted students weekend must have made it all fresh in his mind again.

For others…and for the future. This is why we never discussed our kids’ college applications or acceptances with ANYONE before they made a matriculation decision. So really…no one knew where else our kids applied except where they chose to attend.

When asked we politely said “we are looking forward to sharing the college choice after May 1” and we repeated it as often as needed…and that was a lot for some people.