This thread has actually been helpful for me, even though none of my kids has ever tutored anyone or applied to a highly rejective college!
Rejection is frankly an awful feeling, and when my kids get rejected, it’s exponentially worse. Even when I know that they are better off, will be fine, it all works out for the best, etc. It’s not logical, it’s biological. When someone else is chosen, it can feel even worse or more complicated with jealousy/guilt.
@parent600 , for me, it helps to be aware that those feelings can resurface, even when everything actually has worked out for the better, and your child has moved on. It’s like echoes of the original moment when you feel punched in the stomach on behalf of your child. But it passes!