You won’t believe where we are as of today. After reading tons of online information, we were torn between these choices. It was extremely difficult to make up our mind on which school she has go to. We visited UCSC. I loved the ocean view. We couldn’t meet anyone in the Music department (poor timing on our part) and my wife didn’t like that campus and thought there are too many trees and meadows! 
(she was a bit scared). My daughter went to NYC this week along with her school chorus to perform at Carnegie Hall - guess what the conductor was from SJSU. After my daughter’s group performance SJSU’s Coraliers performed as well and my daughter had a great time with them and Dr. Benson (SJSU).
With 2 days left, we had a very lengthy discussion. I kept the emotions and personal sentiments aside and looked at the reality.
- Sonoma's Music department is awesome and facilities are gorgeous. But outside the campus, there is really nothing. One has to commute 6-10 miles to buy groceries and my daughter doesn't drive. She will pretty much be tied down to the campus. From the reputation/credential standpoint, Sonoma is at the bottom of the list of 4 choices (87% acceptance rate).
- UCSC - we didn't get to see the music department; read all online information which look great. However my daughter didn't / couldn't see herself in that campus (she's probably too stressed as the clock keeps ticking).
- SJSU - great school, but she has to commute as we live 20 minutes away. She also liked the folks from there. But she wants to experience 'campus life'.
- Then comes UCD. As we say in the IT industry - "One won't lose his/her job because they buy from IBM" - One won't get mocked up because they go to UCD. The Decision Day experience was bad; but I think everybody else was too busy and we probably didn't understand the agenda well. They only planned to do a little performance; they didn't plan for any meetings /sessions / Q&A with students/parents so none of the faculties were present. I still believe they could have handled it better as the day was meant for those who got accepted and is not a general 'open house' day.
So, keeping the emotions aside, we went ahead and committed to UCDavis. But deep in our hearts, there is a little pain and dilemma which is still lingering around. Now she is totally buried in preparing for the AP exams which start next week and it’s hard to get her attention or invite her for another discussion. I wish we had a mentor who could advise us on this better.
Had it been some other major focus like engineering, computers, etc. I would have been in a better position to advise my daughter and it would not have been this difficult to choose one from the four. My wife and I are NOT musicians - and have no idea. With 48 hours left, I hope our minds don’t spin again.
Thanks everyone!