<p>You’re way ahead of me. I can hardly recognize any of my neighbors and have lived here for 10 years. We have people around us that are either on the Witness Protection Program or are very socially inept… </p>
<p>I can recognize them only when they walk their dogs because I remember their dogs :). Golden Retriever, the Joneses. Cinnamon the Cocker Spaniel, the Browns… and so on.</p>
<p>“my husband wants to speak to him and try to get it ironed out”</p>
<p>I applaud your efforts for trying to bridge this uncomfortable awkward increasingly hostile relationship, but if you do that, do it out in the open (not inside your home or theirs). Maybe start with a sincerely sympathetic “how are you guys doing?” I think they’re incredibly stressed and they’re turning on the one neighbor who tried to help them.</p>
<p>It sound as if the neighbor is coming a bit unglued. I am sure he is living in a pressure cooker, not knowing with the next shoe will drop. We have a neighbor across the street, one house over that has not paid his mortgage in over 3.5 years and Bank of America has still not foreclosed. The bank has paid the property taxes for the last three years. This man is open about it, trying to get modifications (his wife died unexpectedly 4 years ago and she had no life insurance and worked outside the home) but he is always worried. He has been instructed by the bank to not pay anything until a modification is in place because any payment can cause the modification process to derail. I guess it amazes me that it takes banks so long to either modify or foreclose, but I have no conception of the process. My point is, the OP has no idea how long this foreclosure process could take. It sounds as if the neighbor is channeling his anger toward the OP even though in my opinion she should not be and has not earned the target on her back. If I were in that situation, I would contact my local police department, probably go in person and just explain the situation. Not looking for protection, but letting the police know that the situation has the potential to become volatile. Maybe asking for advise. I don’t know if going there in person is a great idea based on what the OP has said. We all read the news everyday about “normal” people losing it. I think caution is in order here.</p>
<p>I was thinking of a meeting out in the open, maybe starting with “we discussed this incident with our daughter and she did not throw anything into your yard. We don’t encourage or condone such behavior” then maybe say that you’re sorry for the difficulty they’re in and if they bring up “you wouldn’t help us” just say “we offered what we felt comfortable with. Your offer was not something we were comfortable with. I’m sorry.” Even though OP isn’t the one who needs to be apologizing.</p>
<p>Getting advice from police might be an option – I just worry that the police, once they’re notified of this potential event, might try and talk to the neighbors and that will make it worse.</p>
<p>Could any of this be done over the phone?</p>
<p>Thanks all
There seems to be something going on over there today because husband and I saw some type of state employee over there early this morning taking pictures and then another knocked on our door thinking he was at their house for inspection ( grown daughter answered the door)
I am more nervous than my husband is that he will try to retaliate against us in some way.
call me paranoid, but when my dogs were all drawn to a spot of the fence between our homes, I was afraid he put something there to harm them, like anti freeze.
I thought about talking to police but have decided to wait
I’m not one to wish Bsd things upon people but I will be relieved to see them leave and hope they go in peace</p>
<p>Hope they move on too. Save the aggressive texts if you can (hope you won’t need them).</p>
<p>Foreclosure has to be extremely stressful, I would not call the months it takes to lose your home to the bank a free ride. </p>
<p>Regardless…you went the extra mile and then some to try to help, so just hold your head up. If he is starting to act out toward you I would not hesitate to contact the police.</p>
<p>I had a neighbor from hell a few years ago (they were renters), he one day came back in the cul de sac (no reason for him to come back here) and cruised slowly by my house at like 0.05 mph staring straight at me while I was in the yard with my toddler. I marched down to the police station that day and told the captain this guy was giving me the creeps.</p>