Publisher, thanks for your advice. Whirlingcolleges, I did ask him if he wanted to see Haverford again and maybe sit in on a class this time but he has no interest; I think we saw it at a sleepy time of day and that affected his impression of it.
Collegemom3717, it is reassuring to know that you know of someone with a similar profile who went to Vassar and who sounds like he is thriving. He HAS been to both Williams and Vassar and needs to make up his own mind, and either school would be a fantastic choice. When you say you mean your comment “kindly” it doesn’t come across as kind, but rather snarky. My spouse and I are both very much part of the college process, and we want him to find the school that is right for him. He has narrowed his ED candidates to these two schools, but it is hard to get a complete sense of the vibe of the student body after spending just a small number of hours at a school, which is why I decided to come here for advice and support.