@gointhruaphase I am not sure a “tip” is only for A bands, unless it is just a matter of semantics and a tip for an A Band kid is as good as a slot. S was A Band and was one of the top recruits for a team sport at 2 NESCACs. Both coaches said that if he applied ED, his chances were 99% with their support. That sounds like more than a tip to me since the schools are both highly selective. It also doesn’t make sense for the AO to not let a coach use a slot for an A Band kid. The AO is always looking for the most highly qualified academic class.
@bewilderedmom, hang in there. Don’t be shy in politely pushing the coaches. They understand the game and pressures on the recruits. Also be skeptical of soft support if they also insist on ED. There is a thread here from @OldbatesieDoc which provides a cautionary tale on reliance of soft support. http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/bowdoin-college/2093947-prospective-bowdoin-athletes-beware-the-soft-support-p1.html. Best of luck to you and your child.