I think you may need to pull apart using swimming to get an admissions preference and being able to swim.
After being accepted RD at several schools where he had not spoken to coaches, DS heard from the coach and talked about playing the next year. Different sport (and harder to evaluate fit because it involved more than timest) but at 3, he was told that if he enrolled, he’d have a roster spot.
So while you are working all out, know that not being recruited doesn’t have to mean not swimming. Ime, coaches love to have depth because it means everyone has to stay on top of their game. And there is also no guarantee that everyone who is on the roster this year will want to stick with it next year.
On a slightly different note, when unhooked kids are deferred ED while athletes are admitted, it’s easy for them to feel (legitimately) a bit bitter about that. There are lots of those stories out there. What most of them don’t realize is how hard it is to find a school and team you like that also wants you. In other words, kids have hooks but they don’t necessarily get to say where they’ll work. You’re experiencing that now, so hang in there.