“This is a long way from counting Rhodes scholars (although less inherently silly). Anyway, I think part of the difference lies in what gets counted as “good house culture.” At Chicago, it appears that people think a house has “good house culture” if it has lots of activities with 50%+ participation – game nights, movie nights, Scav team, or trips to Greektown, etc. My kids generally found that kind of house culture oppressive, and opted out.”
- IMO, house culture seems to run deeper than the list you've mentioned; for instance, it can help form deep friendships. I guess as a comparison I would tally up the complaints, commentary and general laments about lack of friends and community that might be coming from various dorms, anecdotal as they may be (certainly not more anecdotal than using your own kids as your primary example, although I stand guilty of that myself :wink: ). Conventional wisdom isn't always accurate, and it's fair to give the new dorms time to "settle" - but my understanding is that the newer, larger houses tend to complement the larger and more sterile environment of the newer dorms; they don't compete with the more "established" houses in BJ, Snitch and I-House in terms of forming that house community. The new dorms are also larger so it's natural, all else equal, to hear "more" negative stuff coming from them. They are also "more popular" options, so perhaps expectations are higher going in. And nearly every house has "ghosts" such as your kids were and certainly it's not the case that "ghost" automatically means "lack of friends."
Given that one graduates with the house, and many of my own D’s housemates who are fellow “ex pats” seem to return and help out for various social events (ie welcoming in the new class, BJ Halloween party, etc.), I think the house system is considered “successful” if it encourages that type of close camaraderie. Perhaps this is an area where UChicago is notably “better” now than it used to be - ie better able to match student to appropriate “house culture” (even if that culture is more hands-off). Or perhaps they making admissions decisions based more on successful ability to socialize and fit within the house system than they did in prior years. If so, then it’s critically important that those houses actually “work” as they are supposed to.
(Should add that while there are anecdotal complaints, these might not be nearly as universal as they used to be. In other words, residential life may not be perfect, but it’s notably improved over the College’s historical offerings)
“Everyone winds up eating with everyone else periodically, on a regular basis, year-in and year-out. That doesn’t make you close friends necessarily (although sometimes it does), but it makes you comfortable acquaintances with real appreciation for one another, without anyone putting pressure on you to share group activities.”
- House tables accomplish a similar goal at UChicago; however, from what I could see people come and go as they please (or eat elsewhere including the fishbowl of Cathey, or over at Hutch. Commons, etc.). My guess is that planned communal meals might vary by house.
One advantage of everyone heading over to the dining hall together or meeting at the house table is that the students (particularly new ones) get an opportunity to commune with their housemates. For many feeling overwhelmed in the first year, this might be their only regular opportunity. Very important! Have never heard that anyone is actually compelled to eat meals with their house, although one never knows about those houses in Snitch.
The current house system isn’t comparable, either in size or in scope of opportunity, to Yale’s system. When you are a “community” of 500, there might be something for everyone and the larger size allows organic subgroupings. Maybe a house size of 100 is harder to manage than a house of 50-75 and/or those assigned to a larger house happen not to care for the house system (they chose a large dorm in order to avoid it). That works for them, but it burns the kids who were looking forward to making new friends at his/her house. Obviously, they can try to get more involved - the adage that to make friends you have to be a friend still applies - but Boyer’s “relentless pace of he quarter system” might be keeping first years from doing that right away. That’s why it’s great to have the cultural ‘infrastructure’ already in place upon arrival.
“The other thing that Yale does: Students who move off campus are still part of their residential college and have to eat 5 meals per week there. I owe my marriage to that. My wife hated living in a dorm, and moved off campus after only one semester in the college. Forty years on, she’s amazed to find how comfortable she feels with members of her class and my class in our college, even though she never consciously felt close to any but one or two of them when she was in college. She recognizes them, and they her; she knows enough about them not to have to meet them all over again. She was the one to put a bumper sticker of our college coat of arms on her car, and to buy a picture of the college to hang on a wall in our house.”
- What happens if you DON'T eat meals with your college - is that a "fail"? I guess it is a "residential college" so the answer is probably 'yes' . . .
There is no doubt that these systems, if implemented successfully, build long-lasting friendships and loyalty to the “alma mater.”
My D still gets together with her house regularly even though she’s moved off campus, so some of the same camaraderie applies even though she’s not compelled in any way to continue doing this. I think there is a special pass given to the ex-pats to allow entry into the dorm to attend social events or visit others. Her friends are overwhelmingly from her house and had they remained on campus a third year, she would likely have done the same. My son happens to have a lot in common with his housemates and is really enjoying his house placement. Both experiences seem fairly “typical” for Burton-Judson, which is known for its “vibrant house culture.” And now that they have fixed up the ole’ place, it has lost its “dumpy” appearance and presents as a stately and interesting place to live (no AC though).