<p>My S has two good friends who are freshmen at “party schools” and in that situation this year. It was a difficult adjustment at first since both of them isolated themselves from the rowdier parties. The only trouble is, that was ALL of them! Pretty soon they started to realize that they were going to have to get past the idea that they had to avoid going to these parties. They still don’t drink much if at all( at least that’s what they are saying), but now they will go to the parties anyway and have fun. Both were very social, outgoing and popular boys in HS, but there was definitely an us against them mentality in HS on the issue of drinking that (unfortunately) they both had to get past. They seem to have done that and found a great way to balance their own values with their outgoing personalities. It might have been harder on them if they weren’t such extroverted and well- liked kids though.</p>