I didn’t read through 5 pages of posts. Your going to be on your own and there is no disgrace whatsoever to go to community college (normally for the first 2 years).
What would be a bigger disgrace would be not go to school and end up working at a min. wage job for the rest of your life, or getting a giant loan that will take years to pay off. One of our family friends is a doctor and she said she wished she would have done it that way.
The ending of the journey is the same, you have a degree. When you apply for a job you put down the degree you receive. No application I have ever seen asks where you got it or how much you paid for it. They just want to make sure you meet the requirements for the job.
Both of my kids did first 2 years at community college and then transferred to a university and with Fafsa and financial aid, they pay almost nothing. One for a teaching degree, the other for a science degree.
Only other advice is to study and learn as much as you can outside of your degree. Business is looking more at “niche” expertise, especially in the tech sector.