<p>DS school is two hours away, and he comes home only for the holidays or for special events with his gf. We do visit for football games and concerts. We are in that sweet spot where he has all the independence but we don’t have to worry about expensive plane tickets, coordinating travel or health emergencies. Most of his brothers are the same way and do not come home on weekends.
He is 30 minutes from one of the flagship schools and his hs classmates often come home for hs football games and to hang out with hs friends who attend the satellite campus. It seems to be more about individual preference and their connection to the campus. Those that are coming home most weekends have not found their people, joined a significant campus organization, etc.</p>