"I DECIDED TO BE A MOTHER instead! "
Quite a strange concept you’ve got there …
At some point in our lives, my wife decided to be a mother and I decided to be a father i.e. we both decided to be parents, and both of us continued to work and continued to stay updated in our respective fields. I did not feel at any time as if I was not a father and my wife did not feel as if she was not a mother. We continued to work and provide for our children.