@Streszedmom You may not get access to the college portal until your son grants you access. Once they are 18, they are considered adults and their information is private. You need to go to the college’s website and read the procedure for getting parental access to the online portal.
As others have stated, you will NOT be able to receive a housing refund. Any refund will likely go to your son as most colleges require students to set up direct deposit for refunds. Also, housing contracts are usually for the full academic year. It is a legally binding contract. The only way to be released from the contract is if a student is graduating early, enters the military, will be studying abroad, etc. You cannot cancel a housing contract at will.
Just because the contract is for a year, that doesn’t mean the full year has been paid for. I’ve never seen a college that charges a full year in advance. I don’t think there is any money to be refunded.
@jamgolf There’s nothing strange about being a stay-at-home mother. Whether to work or stay at home is a difficult decision for women, and both are valid choices.