Please don’t suggest this. It is putting strangle hold on your college son. He should absolutely be able to join social organizations AND participate in things at college other than classes.
Please change your mindset about this. It’s a very long commute to Riverside from Pasadena. While you might not mind making the drive…your son is a college student, not an elementary school student. He probably would prefer NOT to have his mom drive him back and forth. Is this really necessary?
[quoye]Oh, and I do not know how to access the online tuition bill pay. I have never looked at the website.
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The online access to everything about college is your son’s, not yours. He will have to give you access to his online information or you won’t be getting it…at all. So you will absolutely need to have your son on board with giving you online access…to anything about his college accounts, grades…etc.
Folks are saying that the dad likely didn’t pay the full year bill…but really, it’s possible he did. Your son can check his bursars account to see.
It sounds like you are struggling with what to do given your husband has left you.
- Hire a lawyer.
- You need to consider getting a job. Lots of good reasons. First, it might actually be good for you to get back into the working world. Second, it will give you some money of your own that you earned. Third, you might need this money to pay some bills.
- Please consider the feelings and needs of your kids while you go through this divorce process. Your college son is already in college. In some ways, your plan to pull him out is a punishment to him...if in fact the bills can be paid. Plus, the 80 mile or so commute is insane.
- You have a license to practice a wonderful profession. I fail to see why you think it’s OK for a dad to be a parent and work...but it’s not OK for a mom to do so. My husband and I both worked and were parents. These roles are not mutually exclusive.
- Your lawyer will advise you on how to protect your financial interests and the interests of your kids. If you really cant afford a lawyer yourself, find a legal aid office or a law school...but get some legal advice before it’s too late. The issue you might have getting reduced fees is that it sounds like your family income might be too high. But ask.
- Are your bank accounts jointly held?