Please don’t do this. The semester is nearly over. You will get zero refund from housing. Next semester is yet to be paid. There is nothing to refund at this point.
Don’t pull your son out of a college situation that your husband has agreed fund. You are going to start a war with the kids in the middle, and when that happens, nobody wins. Think about it. Your son tries to commute. Your husband simply has a lower college bill to pay. If he’s already covering household expenses, pulling your son out of school housing does not increase your household expenses so that you will get more money.
You can go to the fin aid office with all the ID you want; without permission, the fin aid officers cannot talk to you.