<p>Let’s be clear, my S hasn’t yet even submitted his application, so there is no deferral or rejection from Midd around here. Not yet, anyway. 
But I don’t see how my suggestion to employ a little compassion for other students is a “blatant derisive generalization.” On the other hand, suggesting that others went WRONG (which infers to some degree that you were infallible as an applicant) is definitely hubris instead of humility. </p>
<p>Take a chill and realize that no one has to have “gone wrong” to be deferred or denied. As you have proven, it’s not grades or scores that are the only consideration and it didn’t just come down to your essay or your recommendations. You just never know how you fit into the larger puzzle to say “this is why I got in” or “this is why you didn’t.” All I was suggesting is that it would just be nice to see kids recognize this a tad more often instead of thinking their just that much more “special” than the next kid.</p>