@Data10 , You’re right about the problem with too many messages for women. My obviously ‘dummy’ profile, with blank black profile image and nothing written for bio entries got hundreds of likes and about 20 messages. The vast majority of messages are “hey, how ya doin?”. I think a thoughtful message that has specific information about a woman’s profile would have a much better chance for a response. OKC claims they changed the system to only allow messages between people who have mutually liked each other, which is a step in the right direction.
Here’s hoping for a happier Valentine’s Day next year for our unmatched loved ones…
I don’t think we qualify as “very attractive younger women.” Certainly not younger, as most here are parents. Nor is minimal filtering about going in blind. You can state some things without going through a lengthy list, expecting a clone of yourself.
And what I wrote was better than hanging in the produce aisle.
@Classof2015, a friend loves to go out to eat, dance, and go to the beach. She matched with a guy who didn’t like dancing or the beach. Not on his radar. Lol. He’s a charmer and she’s now got him doing those things and loving it.
I know this can be a lot of wading. But you either try or you don’t.
The first sentence by the OP in this thread is “How do you/your kids approach the date site?” This forum is full of parents of college age kids, many of whom are attractive, younger women. However, a similar principle applies to other groups. I’m sure many parents on here would be overwhelmed by the large number of messages, even if they did not get hundreds per day, like some college age kids do. And those overwhelmed by the number of matches are likely going to have an unpleasant experience without applying significant filtering. Filtering does not mean “going through a lengthy list, expecting a clone of yourself.”
I’ve met the majority of persons with whom I’ve had successful relationships with on eHarmony, which sends a few at a time. There is an episode of Shark Tank where the parent-age female founders of Coffee Meets Bagel describe much of the problems above I’ve mentioned with dating sites that they and their friends experienced, and why they set up Coffee Meets Bagel to only send a couple matches per day, who are often friends of friends on Facebook. I’m sure there are quite a few others.
My online dating experience was in the rather dark ages of computer dating on Match. I never posted a photo, partially as I didn’t want to be recognized, and also because I preferred those who would take a bit more time to read a profile. These days that would never fly. One thing I really found refreshing was the ability to really filter out for interests, which you can do if you explore the sites, and I have met some very interesting men who shared specific interests in a way that would be hard to find in the general population. I may try again at some point, but it seems so much more complicated these days!
Two of my kids have found their long term partners online, and they are quite happy as a result, though I know that one D hit a number of adventurous dead ends in the process.
