Our shy (and naive) DS2018 son is using Tinder app, met his 1st GF this way, dated for a year, then broke-up. It was a reasonable match.
He’s not put much effort into his photos. He looks kinda scruffy (“not professional”), used graduation photos w/friends, no specific “best foot forward” shots. He’s a nice quiet guy, reasonably handsome though he doesn’t know it. He also has an unimpressive post-college job, despite decent GPA due to current lack of serious direction. So several issues, including small dating pool in majority blue/collar little city in rural county. So not conventional “good catch” for a college grad woman?
Since break-up, matches haven’t been so great. Several “one-date” meet-ups, w/some “hooking-up” occurring too. Ugh. One scary date w/bad hygiene and drug-user ex-BF; off to HIV test. Some more promising girls, w/life-direction, but difficult home-lives. One girl raised false pregnancy scare after one month of dating, w/call occurring after DS had asked to stop dating each other. These young women aren’t long-term prospects, and their personal problems quickly overwhelm DS
Noted in new thread “worried DD not dating” that one parent flagged “Tinder girls asking for money”. Frankly we’re worried about this sort of potential manipulative situation too. DS is wary too, but wants to find a new girlfriend, and will meet whomever matches and agrees.
Work is not a likely place to do that. Also, he works every Saturday and Sunday, and church isn’t a viable alternative for agnostic DS.
I’d very much other parents’ advice and counsel re their own 20-something post-grad DS’ experiences w/Tinder type dating apps. DS only half-listens to our advice, but seems free-sharing re experiences and own concerns.