What a wise man you are @JHS
My D’s dates via Tinder were ideal, no hook-ups. One took her to an expensive restaurant, 2nd date was the movies. The other to karaoke (not that I ever thought she’d do that. Also coffee dates. This is the one she’s still friends with.) But my D can hold her own. And as she worked through the lists, she could see who was an opportunist or goof ball or worse. Not so naive. Didn’t need a random hook-up, had plenty of fun in college. But she’d been away on a post grad and wanted to meet guys. She dropped Tinder because the good pickings were slim.
Her fiance was barely employed when she met him on OK Cupid, but they clicked. A lot of laughing, their first phone convo was 3 hours. He lived 50 miles away. Again, first date was a nice dinner out. She came home and said, he’s the one. No rustling in the back seat. She had already invited him to meet us.
I just know so many who connected this way, it’s the 21st century. You wade through unsuitables, with your head screwed on right. My older friends manufacture a way out, if it’s boring. This is not just about kids and hookups, unless that’s your only- and superficial- goal. (And if it is, that rustling could happen no matter how you meet.)
No need to suggest I’m unaware of what else went on, this is my TMI kiddo.
As skimom points out to me when I politely ask her to butt out, my great-grandmother, who is in her 90’s (and does know the definition of “meat market” and “Netflix and chill”), still feels the need to “solve” my grandmother’s “problems.” =))
Yup, I told mine, once our kids, always our kids. With some respect, of course, as they grow.
And considering some of the odd questions on threads, this one doesn’t surprise me.
I wish they had room on the profile for the parents. Cause let’s be real- I want to be sure their parents are nice people, too
:-t
^I don’t know about that. S’s new bf has an unaccepting father he doesn’t even know the precise location of and a not-all-that-enthusiastic mother. Is that a reason to stamp that possibility “reject”? Meh, no.
I’m pretty sure the @Meddy comment was sarcasm. (What is that “:-t” emoji? “pouting smiley”?)
@damon30, I think that emoji is a “time out” hand signal. I used to think it was a guy scratching his head with a hammer until I studied it closer!
Lol! You are not alone. I was puzzled what scratching with a hammer was supposed to mean… then I saw it was two hands. 
Time out. That’s what that is. And this is goodbye → :-h
OP here. Wow, some folks infer, then lecture based on assumptions.
Yes, he knows and practices safe sex. That doesn’t prevent what’s said and done by said partners afterwards.
He’s the person who has expressed concerns, after meeting said partners, after more information is presented. We’ve only met GF1. He’s based in a rural area’s small city, no alumni group (LAC), no active network of meet-up groups. Not reasonable prospect for him to drive to larger city, nor return to original home city, at this time.
E-harmony site, at least locally there, is a site for older divorced or widowed folks, not immediate post-grads. Not a lot of young college grads in community, period.
Maybe he does need to relocate to Big City.
I thought the emoji guy was holding a razor and shaving his forehead! My eyes are too old for emoji literacy!
I also have a lot of trouble understanding and seeing emojis! I messaged my son at one point to tell him my sister’s cat had died and I put what I thought was the sad face. He informed me that it was the emoji for laughing so hard I cried. At least I didn’t send it to my sister!
Lol, I’ve sent some emojis that were totally inappropriate to the subject matter too. Oops!
That’s why I stick to smilies, frowns, or “ought oh”. I thought that guy had a hammer, too…
@MomofWildChild I’m really sorry to hear about your sister’s cat. =))