Have you looked at WWU? It is WUE, doesn’t have the party rep that WSU has and is very very well regarded in the state wihtout the party rep (or football, which may be deal killer for some).
Living in Pullman versus living in Seattle are two VERY different things, very much an apples to oranges comparison. Kind of like comparing San Franscicso to…Sacramento maybe? But not really, WSU is very very rural but does have the big sports culture. What is your major? Residency will be hard, you are a dependent so unless you can prove financial independence I wouldn’t count on that at all.
What are your stats for UC/Cal State schools? High stats aside, depending on major, UW may be a reach for admissions and $$.