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I’m probably sounding like a broken record here, but you might consider having her audition at SETC Convention next March in Greensboro, NC. Many schools mentioned here and others in your geographical parameters will be there for a unified type audition for HS juniors. There are also many schools not mentioned here that are “hidden” gems. At the convention there is a large exhibit hall where you can speak to college reps from all the attending schools. Not the same as visiting the campus, but unlike typical college fairs, the reps will be familiar with theater/music programs and will have all the usual marketing materials. Auditioning students may be offered scholarships and prescreen waivers.