Parent and Child Disagree on College List

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@thumper1

Yes- support services are important but a kid who takes his/her responsibilities seriously is the MOST important piece of the puzzle.

I totally agree with @blossom and this statement.

I will add…the student needs to be a good self advocate as well. The student will need to deal with their accommodations. There will not be a case manager to meet with professors and do this. In college, students really need to advocate for themselves. Exceptions might be places like Landmark or Mitchell.

I think this kid and parent need to come up with about 6 reasonable compromise schools. Then have one or two parent picks and one or two student picks on the list.

If this student has a LD and is less than enthusiastic about college applications…try to keep the length of the list manageable so the student can actually get these done.

As a parent, I had to let go of MY expectations and accept and support my child for who they are, not who I wanted them to be.

With my son with LD, he ended up with 5 schools on his list. I put the list together and let him choose. I listened to my child and they strongly wanted a certain major and the ability to live on campus and not at home. Being within driving distance and price point were also factors for us (my son wanted to be able to come home when they could to support their younger siblings in activities).

I cant imagine forcing my child LD to sit through 45 plus college sessions. My sons brain would not be able to handle all that data and he would shut totally (which sounds like OP’s son has a bit). Listen to what is important to the child and then help them create a shorter list of maybe 10 schools that you as parents can afford. Then let the child pick.