We just weren’t in a position to run a taxi service when our kids were growing up. We asked each to do one outside of school activity (in addition to instrument lessons). And we asked each to do one sport a year…not every season…one sport a year.
Yes our kids had to make some choices. Both had taken dance, but then auditioned for a very excellent children’s chorus. Couldn’t do chorus and dance…schedule conflict.
The key is to have an excellent carpool! We were very very very fortunate to have excellent carpools for our kids. The children’s chorus was particularly busy each week with two rehearsals and then additional ones during performances…plus the performances which were seldom nearby. Those carpool parents are still amongst our best friends and their kids and ours are friends still. It’s been 18 years since our youngest did their last gig with the group.
We live in an area that is semirural. We celebrated when our first got his drivers license because it did free us up…and yes that meant he needed a car.
Our kids were plenty busy between their outside activity, music lessons and the one sport a year. Both also skied locally in the winter.