I believe that you can get a waiver so that your father’s information will not be required on your applications. My daughter was able to do exactly that because her father would not speak to her nor see her even though he lived in the same county. He was known to be abusive and was not even permitted to be on the grounds of her high school after threatening an elderly nun in the school office! We had a letter from a family friend, who also happened to be a Presbyterian pastor who had been a privy to the court case and in the document she attested to the situation. The schools understood and as a result, none required anything from her father and accepted only the documentation that I provided.
It’s certainly worth speaking to the schools, especially the OP has not had contact with his birth father in years and there were issues of abuse. No college is going to risk a kid’s life or well being over a financial aid matter.