<p>Northstarmom -</p>
<p>I just wanted to respond to the poster who mentioned that the idea of it being abusive is crazy. It is not my place to label their relationship; I can only give advice and listen to her if need be. However, I do agree with what you are saying. I have had a close experience with an abusive relationship, and understand that control can be the first precursor. Thing is, the way he controls doesn’t appear to be violent per say, bascially just overly authoritative (sorry, probably not describing it well). I still think it’s amazing that she puts up with him because I would be the first girl to put a guy in his place if he tried to map out what I could and could not do. Like, sometimes he will try to regulate her meals, which is odd. He will say “hey, don’t eat that whole peice of pie, let’s split it”, but won’t come out and say “you’re fat” (shes petite btw). He comes off like such a gentleman, from a good home, clean cut and organized, but very, very anal retentive. I think she believes that he knows what is best for her, and is just trying to help. I don’t think she is seeing that he is taking over every aspect of her life. They both need their own friends, their own hobbies, and their own life. </p>
<p>Anyway, I’m getting off topic. But yeah, I totally get your drift.</p>