Parents caring for the parent support thread (Part 1)

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I’m so sorry for your loss, eyeamom. Love does not die, and you will always have your mothers love.

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I’m so sorry, eyemamom. I hope you find solace knowing you were there, you told her you loved her, you were able to let her go when you knew it was time. May your memories of happy times with your mother sustain you.

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So sorry.

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Eyemamom, I am so, so sorry for your loss. I’m sure your mom felt the love surrounding her. May she have been carried home on the peace and the love of her family.

I am thinking of you and your family, and of course, your mom.

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Oh, eyemamom, so sorry for your loss.

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I’m so sorry about your mother, eyemamom. Wishing you peace and strength in the days ahead.

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I’m so very sorry to read this, Eyemamom.

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eyemamom, I am so sorry. May your memories of your mom be a comfort and blessing to all who loved her. Sounds like she had a wonderful, caring medical team on her side. Glad your family could be there for her.

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So sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace and good memories.

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So sorry for your loss, eyemamom. Glad that so many of your family could be there for your mother and each other. Take care of yourself.

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So, so sorry eyemamom. Sending virtual hugs.

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I am so sorry eyemamom, may her memory give you strength. After battling the effects of a stroke for almost 5years my dad died unexpectedly about a year ago after a blessedly short illness (like 12 hours). Although it was a shock to everyone, as I know this was for you, he was with my mom and sister at the end and I take comfort in that. I know your mom felt the love surrounding her.

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I am so sorry for your loss @eyemamom, but I’m glad that you were there to comfort her and take comfort in the family gathered around.

@“Cardinal Fang” – the acute rehab places are pretty good at assessing whether a patient is strong enough to handle the therapy. We found the therapy there to be a lot better than in-home therapy, but it was exhausting. It might not be an issue with your mom, but the acute rehab hospital pushed my mom to do lots of things for herself, even if that took a lot of time. At home, aides or my dad would jump and and do for her – and I don’t think that was a benefit.

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My mom has been as independent as she could be. She definitely has the mental fortitude to do rehab, but I’m not sure she’ll be physically strong enough. And she has moderate dementia too.

Still, it looks like my sisters and brother are going to decide to send her to Kessler. I weighed in tentatively for Kessler, assuming the hospital she is at thinks it will work for her, but my sisters and bother on the scene will make the final decision. If it doesn’t work out, she is guaranteed a spot at the rehab at her own continuing care place.

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Sorry, eyemamom…wishing you peace and great memories…

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So sorry for your loss .

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CF, if your mom is assessed to be a candidate for acute rehab, I’d go for it, all in. After my dad’s stroke he went to acute rehab for 3 weeks before they kicked him out and it was about the extent of the progress he ever made. They were much more proactive in getting him to learn to use what function he had left (he had a pretty severe right side stroke that left him pretty much a left side hemiplegic). Once he was transferred to subacute rehab in a SNF, he actually went backwards. If he said he was tired, or didn’t actively participate, no one pushed him. However, when he came home the aides my mom employed (she took care of him at home for 4.5 years before he died) learned to do daily therapy to keep his muscles (and mind) engaged. Most importantly, we think, they had him stand and ambulate at least twice a day. For someone who spent most of his days in a recliner, wheelchair or bed, this was important to maintaining muscle tone and muscle memory. He was 82 when it happened and died last December at 87. If our experience is any guide, push as hard as she can tolerate in these first weeks…it makes a difference.

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What a happy place! Why can’t we do this here?

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We have a very motivated aunt that is over 90, had a couple of strokes, but regained quite a lot of movement and QOL with rehab. Cheerful personality, family live near and visit often. In acute care facility that has a fair amount of rehab patients.

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@eyemamom sorry about your mom’s decline and death. Expected her to pull through like is her nature. Hugs.