H was my first serious boyfriend. I had many male friends from elementary school on. I’m not exactly a typical female with my likes/preferences - even my primary major in college (Physics) had me as the only female in many of my “major” classes. At most there were three of us gals in any one class. I only grew to like H as a “mate” after we had done many things together (travel/hiking/walks/dinners - he’d join me with anything whether it was as part of a group or just “me.” He was an engineer and two years ahead of me so we never had any of the same classes or study partners.